"If you don’t define yourself for yourself, then you will be crushed into other people’s fantasies of you and eaten alive." — Audre Lorde
Today would have been her 80th birthday. Ashe.
The greatest love is sacrificial, not romantic love. Love is doing what’s best for another, not best for yourself. It’s usually easy to love those you like, or feel affection or attachment to. But you can still be a critical thinker, you can make conclusions about people & their actions, & still be loving. You don’t need to feel love to love. You don’t need to be loved to love. You don’t need to like to love. But life is about love. There is nothing greater, nothing more powerful, nothing more important. I think I need to try to love, by my words & actions, because I have been loved when I have been undeserving. A lot. A whole lot. Therefore I think loving is an obligation of mine. I respect everyone, & I try to like them. Acting lovingly can be a huge challenge sometimes, & I think that’s truly when it’s a virtue. And while I can often be flip, mocking, or an asshole myself, privately or with a close friend, I always try to act as kindly & lovingly as I can. It’s something I only can do through the power that showed it to me. The power of love.
Some day are better than others, but I try to do my best and show up. I also try and remember the little things. This morning, as I drove into work, I had so much gratitude. I get to see this scene every day, and no matter how I feel, the sun rises, it sets, and it brings in the tide. There is certainty in that. God is able!
I just really love pink shoes.